Are you a parent for a sensitive or empath child

Something to realize if you are a parent with a sensitive child is to not be hard on yourself or your child for being who they are and who you are. You are both just a little different, got through life and different speeds and communicate in different ways. 

So acceptance and allowing time to learn new perspectives, understanding and communication really helps to make for a smoother journey.

There is a lot to learn from sensitive children if you allow them to be your teacher.

A major thing about sensitive children is that they “feel” way more than most people. They also haven’t been conditioned to burry emotions so when they are feeling more they aren’t able to hide it. A tiny amount of fear or sadness to you can feel like a really huge amount to a sensitive child. 

This is where acceptance, compassion and wider perspectives are a some of the gifts that sensitive children can teach us. 

There is a stream of thought that all illness and disease comes from stuck, buried, unfelt or unexpressed emotions.

That some emotion or “energy in motion” is no longer in motion and remains stuck in the body to materialize into disease at a later date.

There are many accounts of spontaneous healing from people that released old buried emotions.

Either way im going off track a little there, but I did want to shine a light on learning to and allowing people to have emotions is beneficial in very deep and moving ways.

There are a lot of parents with sensitive children that are in themselves actually a sensitive person but due to conditioning were taught to hide and not show their sensitive side as a child. They may have even forgotten this, but a sensitive child will be a mirror and shining light to illuminate those elements of yourself.

This again is a wonderful thing as they can teach you to go back to being your own true self also. 

I am under the belief that the planet we live on will be come increasingly inhabited by more and more sensitive and empathic beings. This is a big part of the ascension we are going through right now. As the vibration of the planet rises so will the numbers of sensitives. 

Emotions really aren’t a problem if we aren’t resistant to them and restrict them. When emotions are allowed to flow easily and fluidly the pain and suffering that many associate with emotion is transmuted.

We are able to laugh freely and so we are aided by being able to cry freely too.

So we mentioned here about sensitive children feeling things to a higher degree. Another element of these children is that they can feel you too. If you are smiling at them but inside you are feeling angry or frustrated then they will know it. They may not be able to discern what is going on but what they know is someone is outwardly showing something but inside they are really feeling something completely different.

This is very confusing to a sensitive child. It is also lying from a parents perspective. We really have to start being more truthful as a parent. We have emotions also and we may want to be joy and rainbows all the time, but it isn’t realistic to keep that up when dealing with life.

So I am not at all saying take your emotions out on your child. I am saying to become truthful with how you feel so that the outside matches the inside. 

This actually helps these emotions to process also.

If you are frustrated and feeling sad it is completely healthy and normal to tell you child that. “You know sweetheart mummy/daddy is feeling tired and sad today. I need some time to recover and rest for a moment” is way better than feeling those things and saying that all is ok.

By doing this you are also teaching your child that it is ok to have emotions and that its fine to have them as a child and as an adult. Also showing your child how to have boundaries with others by expressing what we are really feeling. 

We have been taught to put on a mask and illusion to the world and if we don’t then we won’t succeed but I actually think this couldn’t be further from the truth. The really successful and healthy people I know are very good at communicating their emotions and needs. I feel this a part of their success. Others know where they stand with them. Their actions are in congruence with how they feel and think.

Authenticity is really important to people now so to teach our children that they can be authentic with their own emotions and the world is highly beneficial for them.

We teach our children by our thoughts, words and actions. They look at what we do. With a sensitive or empathic child, well they can also feel you. So they may not say anything but they are registering internally if your thoughts, words and actions externally are congruent to how you are feeling internally. 

So as a parent to an empath and sensitive child they are calling us to be authentic ourselves so that they can also bring that to the world also as they grow.

As parents we can feel like we have to teach our children lots of things. In reality children are here to teach us a lot about ourselves. 

If your child is having overloading amounts of emotion then teaching them how to ground and become more centred is great for them. If you as a parent don’t know how to do that they you can’t teach them it. 

This is where they help us to learn. We can be spurred to learn how to be grounded, learn to breathe and sit in our hearts. Our empathic children can help us to learn this so that we can teach them too. 

Maybe there is a joint course to go to for parents and children to learn together. 

thank you

Simon Calnan

www.sograteful.ca